Why Understanding The Woman You Love Is The KEY To A Long Lasting And Blissful Relationship"
If the woman you want to attract is holding power, such asbeing your boss or superior, you have to understand what these type of women want and what they lack in their psyche.For these women they are always meeting and encountering people who tend to be fawning and to want something from them. Their being in a position of power tends to make them look very cold and seem socially distanced from other people. However, in reality, most women of these type long to be seduced and loved by the right men who understands their innermost secret.
To make her fall in love with you, you have to act like their equal or their superior. It is very rare that other men would dare to or are willing to be her equal or superior, so you decide that you will be the one to give her the kind of treatment that she will never get from others. If you find out that she always do her jogging at a local park during the weekends morning, plan a chance meeting with her in your jogging gear. Make it look like an ‘accident’that both of you meet. Find an excuse to jog together, then challenge to her to a 200m sprint! If you work in the same company, race to complete an important report before her. It does not matter who come out as a winner. What matters is you’ll get her attention. Whatever it is, know what you are doing and why you do it. You get the idea.
If you are dealing with a woman who is constantly looking for adventure and changes in life, you cannot get their attention by showing them that you are a responsible man able to provide a sense of security. They do not want security; they want challenges, and they love playing mind games at times. To them, pain is pleasure, and they do not mind enduring pain at times. To her fall in love with you,you have to rise up to their level and inject drama and challenges into your relationship with you. You have to maintain an air of mystery about yourself and able to give surprises once in a while. This is the only way to allow herto see you as always interesting and challenging to be with,and so she will not be bored! For her, she does not need comfort, security or promises. She needs to get rid of her own boredom! Some ideas of what you can do to draw her toyou:
1) Learn to bake her homemade croissants for breakfast(something she would usually do herself)
2) Plan a chance meeting; and continue the next day,and the day after tomorrow. Ask her why you keep runninginto her.
3) Cancel an appointment with her and tell her you have something very important to attend to, but don’t give details.
4) Purposely don’t pick up her call during the time when she knows you will be available.
The man who is relaxed and confident has won half the battle. You must never doubt that you are the most desirableman in the world. This idea will seem ludicrous to you atfirst, but keep at it. Millions of men have accepted iteasily, and so can you. Give her the impression that she islucky to be with you, that you are, somehow, doing her afavor, and that it cannot last.
The object of really skillful flattery is to show that youdo appreciate her and that in fact she almost comes up toyour exacting standards. In short, create the impression that she is probably the most desirable girl in theworld—but that you haven't quite stopped looking. Flatter awoman only on her good points. She will know what they are,and it must be assumed that by this time so will you. A woman with good eyes, hair, breasts, or legs will know it,and can easily swallow the statement that they are the most beautiful in the world.
A word of caution, however, uncontrolled flattery is bad, can backfire and make a woman feel she is too good for you. Controlled flattery not only preserves the right balance,but also can lead to self-improvement.
"Your legs are lovely, dear. Probably the best in the country—below the knees."
"What's the matter with above the knees, Peter?"
"Did I say anything was the matter, Phoeb?"
"Peter, don't you dare leave me hanging here cut off at the knees! If my hips are too fat, say so!" (Deep in her heart every woman knows her own shortcomings.)
"You said so, sweet, not I. I like you just the way youare."
(This is always an excellent phrase. It shows toler­ance ,affection, and good nature—yet subtly implies there is room for improvement.)
Often you will find you have planted a seed. Watch it grow.
Here’s a secret about human nature which you can take noteof right now. People want to be engaged in things or else they will feel bored. Even doing meditation or going into are treat require you to be engaged in that activity! Become that which she is earnestly seeking and engage her! If thewoman you want is focused on some worthwhile cause or religion, say she is a very devout Buddhist, understand that these type of women have some sort of emptiness which theywant to fill in their psyche. Very often they feel something important is lacking in them, and thus they are always seeking and searching for the answer just what it is that is missing. If you want to make her fall in love with you or togo on a date with her, your plan would be to become herobject of worship and become that which she is earnestly seeking.

"What Are HIS/HER Needs? Secrets To Attracting The Right Life Companion Into Your Life"


People like to have their needs met and want you to take the LEAD in meeting them. This is the unspoken truth of persuasive secrets.

Zig Ziglar is a world famous salesman and now sales trainer. His famous quote is “You will always get what you want if you give enough people what they want” is a tried and true strategy both in the world of sales and in the world of love.

It’s also a very sound Universal Principle. Our job is to love and care for others in the way they want to be loved and cared for.

It is about the Platinum Rule not just the Golden Rule. The Platinum rule states “Give people what they want in the way THEY want it”.

And if we are with the right person then this will be easy for us and it will be easy for them to give us what we want especially if we let them know.

Too often we tend to assume the intentions of others. Don’t assume. Spell it out to your potential mate what you like them to do or not do – “Call me at ______”, or “You can email me at _________”. And know what you want.

Its important to find out what they want too. Your preconceived notions may be mistaken. You can put your Sherlock Holmes detective hat and find out if you assumptions are right or not.

Once you find out what they want give it to them. If you have given them all that they want in the way they want it but they are still not motivated or able to meet you needs you have some life and relationship choices to make.

Your job is to give freely first, however if they are not able to meet your needs you may want to ask “Is He (She) the “highest and best for me.”

Relationship with Mastery, Love and the right partner is effortless, easy and fun; however you may have to switch up your game so you get on track with whom you are with or wanting to be with.

I once had a client who spent too much time and energy trying to figure out what his woman was thinking. He wanted to date her; but was afraid of rejections; and kept questioning himself whether he should send her flowers or a card. He was afraid she wouldn’t like what he gave her. I told him, people like to be understood, recognized and loved.

If he wouldn’t proceed to date her don’t expect her to take any actions! Some personalities are shy and are just dying to have you take the initiative. Some people and depending on the society, gender or and personality have been trained to be the receptor vs the initiator. “What if she rejected me?” He asked. “You can’t keep putting papaya seeds in the soil and expect to see an apple tree!” I told him. “If one way doesn’t work with her, try another way!”

And if she is not “Highest and Best” for your energy it will not be returned and you will find it harder and harder even if you use all sorts of techniques.

The answer is not about techniques and strategies. It is about flow and vibration.

With your Soulmate or one that is Higher and Better for you there is always an “Expanding Vortex of Energy Exchange” As you give energy to the person it will be expanded back to you.

If you have not understood their unique personality or style, then if you are initially blocked and switch they will respond. However if you switch and use techniques that would appeal to any style and especially theirs and nothing happens; and on top of that you even get a heaviness, then you know this is a message to tell you to move on and find someone better for you.

This guy got my message clear. I wasn’t able to see the woman he liked and he expected me to give him a magical solution to attract that girl. I couldn’t give him that of course, since I wouldn’t know what her desires and needs are. But I taught him one important skill, that is, to constantly develop new ways of responding to objections and understanding the messages.
Its call “sensory acuity” Listen and See the feedback people and the Universe are giving you and move accordingly with the Stream or “River of Life”. And learn to listen to your Soul.

However don’t give up too soon” if you “just know” and feel deeply in your heart and soul that this person may one of your potential Soulmate.

He gave her his contact number so she can contact him should she be interested to go out with him. He heard nothing from her for a week. He sent her a card with his email address besides his signature. No response either. A month later, he text her a message casually asking her if she would like to go to the gym with him, “to whack the weights” this was what he wrote in his message.

The woman responded and enquired why he would want to “whack the weights?” He gave his honest feelings and thoughts: It always gave him a good feeling after working out hard and sweating it out. In his own words, “it was as if all the negative energy in him evaporated.”

She agreed to go to the gym with him. To cut a long story short, this was the starting point of their blossoming relationship. He found out later that, she was recovering from a previous failed relationship and was moody all the time while he was trying so hard to connect with her.

That he could “whack the weights” and knocked out all the negative energies inside of him intrigued her so much that she decided to give it a try.

This guy didn’t know he had hit the right key when he asked her to go to the gym. He would never had succeeded winning her over if he had given up and if he didn’t switch his style and try some different approaches.

He also realized that at some point she may not be his highest and best if she never responds but she did when he hit the right chord. Careful planning will help you to survive your first date and may lay the groundwork for a second date. Make sure you have planned out the date ahead of time and made arrangements to ensure that the date runs smoothly. On a first date it is best not to leave anything to chance or to rely on making on the spot decisions about what to do next because doing so can create uncomfortable moments on the date.

Don’t just plan out what you would like to do on the date but also map out the best routes to arrive at your destinations and pre-arrange any necessary reservations so you don’t wind up not being able to find your destination or waiting a long time for an activity. While careful preparation before the date will ensure that everything runs smoothly and will eliminate any unnecessary tension on the date you may still need to remain flexible. Despite your best efforts, you may suffer a snag in your plans and being flexible and willing to adapt your plans will prevent you and your date from being frustrated on the date. Your date will be impressed that you went to so much trouble in planning the date and will be flattered by your efforts

Getting The Love You Want, From The Inside Out

First, recognize that you already have tons of power readyto be used to achieve your dream of a perfect mate. It doesnot matter whether you are competing with others for thesame person, or whether you are ugly looking, unattractive,shy or lack of charisma. You only have to take thistremendous power that you already possess and move it in anew direction. It is already there stored up within you, butis being scattered and misdirected. What we are going to dois focus it and aim it. Then watch miracles happen!
Try to get in touch with where your power is heading rightnow. It is entirely possible that you have made decisions inyour recent or not so recent past that are nowcounterproductive to your finding a wonderful mate. I haveencountered people who keep telling me: “I will never have a truly happy relationship.”“I am unattractive, other people do not want to be close tome.”“I always attract the wrong person.”“I am not sociable enough. People do not even want to befriends with me.” “I’ve been hurt badly. I think I will not love again.”“I cannot talk well. People do not find me interesting.” If you look closely enough, you’ll notice that all of thepeople mentioned above hold some kind of beliefs within andabout themselves. They feel that they are unattractive, toofat, too thin, too old, too ugly and uninteresting and thusthey are unable to attract or capture the heart of a personwhom they like. Some admit that they are very shy,unsociable, and do not like to be part of a big group ofpeople, and thus without some sort of charisma, they feelthey will never be able to find and attract a wonderfulpartner for themselves.
Then there are others who have been in bad relationships ormarriages before and are hurt so badly that they begin tobelieve that they will never have a truly happyrelationship, and so will never attract a right and perfectmate again.
There is one basic truth of the law of the Universe whichyou have to remember, and that is:
Believe, and you’ll see
Many of us are being taught that ‘seeing is believing.’ Itsounds logical, isn’t it? You have to see some kind ofconcrete proof with your eyes first, only then will youbelieve that it is a fact. This is why we are always feelingthat we are under the control of our outer circumstances,external events or other people. We feel that things andevents are not within our control. There is nothing we cando about it.
Now, I’m going to tell you that it should be the other wayround! Think about it. Take as long as you want to realizethis truth – Believe, and you’ll see.
You don’t see to believe. You believe first, and then you’llsee it all happening. This is how the events, circumstancesand things in our daily lives happen. A lot of events orcircumstances in our daily lives do not happen just bychance, by accident, by fate or by destiny. We create them,whether consciously or unconsciously. We are the creators ofour own destiny. There are no accidents.
Thus, the very first step to finding and attracting aperfect partner, or even to get your first date is to takeresponsibility for your own power, which every one of uspossesses. If you are lonely right now, and wondering whyyou could never find or attract a person who will truly loveyou, realize this: things are the way they are because thatis how we insist they must be. This is one of the immortaltruths of love and relationship.
Things are the way they are right now for you because youhave, whether consciously or unconsciously, made some sortof emotional decisions in your recent or not so recent past,that are now counterproductive to your finding a good andwonderful partner.
You may have told yourself:
“There is a big group of people over there. Should I joinin their conversation? Maybe I shouldn’t, I will made a foolof myself (You are shy! You don’t feel secure.)” “The person that I like is over there. Should I go overand strike up a conversation with him? But, there are otherprettier women near him. He wouldn’t bother to notice me.”(You tell yourself you are unattractive, you stop yourselfapproaching the person you like). Believe, and you’ll see. If you see yourself in the examplesgiven above, now you should have a better understanding whyit seems you have so much difficulties finding andattracting a wonderful mate. The answer is right here,within you. Search the answer within your-self first, do notlook elsewhere.
If you believe you are too fat or too thin, and that youwill never be able to attract a perfect mate, then, your‘wish’ is going to materialize. Believe, and you’ll see.
If you believe you will never attract a responsible andloving mate ever again (because you have been hurt badly inprevious relationships or marriages), then you will neverattract a wonderful mate. Period. Believe, and you’ll see.
If you believe you will never capture the heart of theperson you like (because you are too shy to approachhim/her, or that you believe there are better and moreattractive woman or man for him/her who are far better thanyou, or that you have no confidence of winning that person’sheart), then, you’ll never win the heart of this person whomyou like and love so much. Believe, and you’ll see.
When I see someone repeatedly trying to make somethinghappen and being unsuccessful I always look at the person tofind out why they are stopping themselves. The fact is, weall consciously (or unconsciously) choose our currentcircumstances or situations in our relationships. Now, askyourself: Why are you stopping yourself?
Now, don’t get me wrong. It is perfectly okay if you feel,say, you are a shy person. There is nothing wrong with youfeeling this way in the first place. This could be due to alot of factors and reasons such as your upbringing, the typeof education you have received, the environment and cultureyou are being exposed to from a young age, or it could verylikely be due to your habitual way of thinking, attitude,character and so on and so forth.
The first step in this magical process of finding,attracting and capturing the heart of the person you like,is to get in touch with your personal power right now. Takea good look at the way your life is in the relationship andmarriage area and realize that it is exactly as you want itto be.
I know it is going to sound a little ironical, since you areprobably reading this resource hoping to find out how tomake things better in this area, the secrets of makinganother person like you, or the secrets of getting yourfirst date or drawing a true love to you somewhat magically(if you are not yet eyeing someone you know).
For me to say that it is already just the way you want it issomewhat of a paradox. However, this is really the startingpoint and the foundation of having personal power in yourrelationships.
Much of my work with my clients is to help them get back intouch with their personal power, by showing them they arethe ones who make their relationship choices. If they stillcould not find or attract a true love, or that they arestill unable to connect with a person they like, it is NOTbecause other people have not considered them, are rejectingthem, or that they are destined to be lonely all their life(many of them believe so!), but that they themselves makesuch relationship choices! Once they see this clearly, oncethey understand what is going on, a certain realization andfreedom emerges in them. Having regained their power, theyare now ready to use it to create something different intheir love lives.
This awareness, that of acknowledging our power, and seeinghow and why we have made all of our current choices inrelationships and other areas, is the magic elixir thatopens up a new world of possibilities.

Understand How You Can Make Love Happen - Even Get A New Date! By Cucan Pemo

Positive thinking is tiring and mentally exhausting if used incorrectly. If you are a positive thinker it doesn’t mean life will be all perfect and smooth for you every single moment. Be a master of love by being able to summon the right thoughts and trigger the right feelings during that particular moment in life and in your relationship when you need it!

The “Secret” to success and love is to understand how the Universe works and how we can be “ In Tune with the Infinite” and understand “How to flow” to the “Highest and Best”.

Think of life as a “River” If you are flowing along and get blocked or stuck then you have gone in a direction that is counter to the movement of the flow.

You are like a “great oarsman” who steers your own ship in the sea of life to your Ultimate Destiny. You are the “Captain of Your Soul” and “Master of Your Fate”. You job is to turn your “Dreams into Reality” and be one with your “ Highest and Best Soulmate”. As you flow with the “River of Life” you will be guided at all times to what is “highest and best” for you.

So if you encounter a block or a rejection then that is a “Message from the Great Universal Master Dream Machine” that you are to proceed differently or to pursue another person or direction. Excellent salesmen, business people and those looking to create the life and relationships of their dreams when following divine guidance go through life experiencing rejections and reluctance, procrastination, frustration and disappointments every now and then but still achieve the results they want. Why? Because they know how to read the feedback and signs from their Soul and Universe.

You Divine Guidance from your Soul and the Universe speak to you in many ways. A block, or negative feeling, resistance or lack of comfort or energy are all just messages.

It would be nice if the Universe sent you an email or said in a clear voice “Hey this person isn’t highest and best for you” or “Hey you need to learn better skills here”. We don’t always have a direct Auditory connection although some of us have easier and faster access to the “wee small voice” and “whispers of wisdom” from the Universe.

Those that succeed in Love and Life have developed the habit of thinking the right thoughts, asking the right questions within themselves, developing new ways of responding to the objections they get, and triggering that feelings which will serve them.

It’s all about developing a Relationship with the Universe. It communicates with you in many ways. We have at least 4 Internal Channels that the Universe gives you direction through Intuitive Guidance. There are also several external ways the Universe gives you clear signs and directions for you “ Highest and Best Good”.So, whether you are dating or already in a committed relationship, understand that you are bound to go through periods of times when there will be disagreements, disappointments, confusion, arguments, and quarrels.

Be a master of love by learning to snap out of these seemingly unhappy and energy-draining situations as quick as lava would flow out of a volcano. If you keep failing at getting your first date, or even having difficulty getting more dates after the first one, look at and understand the Bigger Picture. And welcome objections. This is the only way your partner can make it known to you what exactly he/she likes or doesn’t like about you, SO you can improve on yourself!

Keep in mind that unconditional love is given without any expectations, limitations or any other definitions. In other words when you love someone unconditionally you do so without expectations that the sentiment will be returned, without placing restrictions or conditions under which the love will be expressed and without establishing defining parameters for when, where or why the love is felt or expressed. There are many examples of relationships where the love is unconditional. The love between romantic partners, parent and child, siblings and even friends can all be examples of unconditional love. The most important factors of unconditional love are that it is completely free of restrictions or expectations.

How to Create Your Own Relationship Reality

How to Create Your Own Relationship Reality By Cucan Pemo

Over the past few years, I’ve been teaching people some of my most prized and valuable relationship strategies and ideas online. Most of what I’ve been teaching are nothing new and the principles, strategies and tips which I’ve learnt and shared with my friends, associates and readers come from various sources and resources which I’ve been researching and studied for almost 3 years.

One of the main reasons why my teachings, materials and tips work for many people is I’ve found ways to apply these time tested principles, “formulas” and tips in the real world. This is one skill I’ve been emphasizing in all my works and that is, you have to make the knowledge you have gained your OWN! Other people can share with you or teach you their secret “formulas”, their magical strategies and their powerful tips, but nothing will happen for YOU if you do not have the intention to put these teachings and strategies into practice, customize them, and make them work for you!

I’ve been exposed to the “master principle” which I would like to share with you here – No matter where you are in your relationship right now, YOU create your own relationship reality.

And I’ve put it here as the Number One tip you have to master to make love and relationship work for you. In fact, if you master just this one principle, you’ll be able to master the rest and the light might just go on for you! Once you internalize this principle, everything else about relationships and dating will start to click.

This “master principle” is universally applicable to ALL aspects of your life and relationships - to your relationship, and to ANY other relationships, anywhere. I cannot emphasize enough how important just this one principle is. If you are wondering whether this will all work for you, I’m a living proof of using and applying this “master principle”. My most successful clients and customers are ALL people who have internalize this teaching and make the impossible possible – retrieving their lover/spouse/partner under the most difficult and adverse condition or circumstance or even attracting their true love!

If you think you are no good at meeting people, walking over to a man or woman, presenting friendly conversations and non-threatening body language, and engaging in a friendly and pleasant conversation with him, you know something? It is not that you are no good at this; but you have made yourself believe that you are no good at it! You think you are no good, so you are no good.

If you have a past relationship that has failed, or even failed a number of times for that matter, don’t let your past control your present and determine your future. This universe is full of abundance. It certainly does not have to remain true that you will not be able to attract and find your true love. This is up to YOU! YOU decide.

Whatever it is that is not going your way on the outside of you, be it any of your life or relationship circumstances or situations, check the inside! Always start from within you. Take the analogy of a tree with its roots buried deep within the ground. Can you visualize it? If the roots (the invisible) are not good; the visible parts of it will not be good too. Period. Remember this simple but profound truth, having tension on the inside of you guarantees resistance on the outside.

Conversely, relaxation inside will reduce resistance outside. Heighten your immunity to negative and discouraging influences of all kinds, both physical and mental, by learning to change your thinking, as and when it is necessary. Your thoughts are very powerful. The kind of thoughts you hold each and every single seconds coupled with your intense emotions WILL create for you YOUR reality.

Change your thoughts today. And you change your relationship and love reality.